In this relationship we have said things that have wounded each other so deep the wounds are scabbed over ready to bleed fresh if picked off. We lock the people who have hurts us up in a prison within our heart not allowing them to hurt us because we keep them locked up.They knew what they were were doing when they did it and still they continued on with it. But the pages say "your unforgiveness, anger, and bitterness have made a prisoner of you as well....Your freedom is now dependent on your forgiveness." We can both see the dangers in forgiving the person that hurts us. But we have to realize that the forgiveness doesn't make them free of blame or clear the record that God keeps...it just means you are turning the punishment over to God. It's not about making the person pay, it's not about winning or losing, it's about letting go and being free.
The Bible tells us "Never take your own revenge, beloved, but leave room for the wrath for it is written, 'Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,' says the Lord" (Romans 12:19). The Love Dares tell us "Great marriages are not created by people who never hurt each other, only by people who choose to keep 'no record of wrongs,' (1 Corinthians 13:5)."
Whatever you haven’t forgiven in your mate, forgive it today.
Let it go.
Just as we ask Jesus to “forgive us our debts” each day,
we must ask Him to help us “forgive our debtors” each day as well.
Unforgiveness has been keeping you and your spouse in prison too long.
Say from your heart,
“I choose to forgive.”