Tuesday, July 24, 2012

Day 23 - Love Always Protects

The last three days have been pretty good with Chris. Maybe that was because of the extensive fighting we had the days leading up to these, who knows, I am grateful either way. I realize that I choose to stay in this relationship. I choose to love Chris. So in a way I am just as much to blame for when one of us hurts the other as he is. We do get physical sometimes with our fighting....actually the majority of the real fights we have turn physical. Thanks to my past I won't back down from a fight anymore and thanks to his past this is how he deals with his anger. Something needs to change. But neither of us will just leave the other no matter how many times we say it.

As I was reading the first line of the Love Dare's Day 23 something stuck out, "the furthest thing from your mind is a battleground." Love around here can be like WW3 happening. Today's pages tells of some examples that your relationship and your mate need to be constantly protected from. These include: Harmful influences (internet, tv, work, etc.), unhealthy relationships (guy and chick friends), shame (inferiority, weakness, speaking negatively about each other), and Parasites (addiction of drugs, porn, gambling). Thinking back I can name lots of things that fall into those categories that has caused fights.

Today's pages also talk about the roles of wives and men. These are directly pulled from the pages because I can no where do it justice:

Wives – you have a role as protector in your marriage. You must guard your heart from being led away through novels, magazines, and other forms of entertainment that blur your perception of reality 
and put unfair expectations on your husband. Instead you must do your part in helping him 
feel strong, while also avoiding talk-show thinking that can lure your attention away from 
your family. “The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish tears it down with her 
own hands” (Proverbs 14:1).

Men – you are the head of your home. You are the one responsible before God for guarding the gate and standing your ground against anything that would threaten your wife or marriage. This is no 
small assignment. It requires a heart of courage and a head for preemptive action. Jesus 
said, “If the head of the house had known at what time of the night the thief was 
coming, he would have been on the alert and would not have allowed his 
house to be broken into” (Matthew 24:43). This role is yours. 
Take it seriously.

Today’s Dare
Remove anything that is hindering your relationship, 
any addiction or influence that’s stealing your affections
 and turning your heart away from your spouse.