The biggest issue Chris and I have is the fact that I cheated on him. It's something that he will never forgive me for I believe. It has taken a worse turn lately. Like there is absolutely no love that comes from him hardly. I would almost say he hated me at times. He told me so too. So I as I read Day 22's pages I learned about Hosea and how he married a prostitute on God's order. God's plan was for Hosea's marriage to be a example of how His unconditional love is. But she left him. Later God told him to go back to her and she had to be bought as a slave. She broke his heart and he still took her back. God doesn't want us to be unfaithful to our spouse; we all know it is against the 10 commandments. But this was an example of how loving and forgiving God's love for us is.
Even thought that woman hurt Hosea he still took her back, showing an unconditional love. Jesus told us of this love by giving us the Sermon on the Mount. In Luke 6:27-28 Jesus said, "love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.” Another verse is, "If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners love those who love them. If you do good to those who do good to you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners do the same" (Luke 6:32-33).
Love is a choice, not a feeling.
It is an initiated action, not a knee-jerk reaction.
Choose today to be committed to love even if your
spouse has lost most of their interest in receiving it.
Say to them today in words similar to these,
"I love you. Period. I choose to love you even if you don't love me in return."