Taking honor away from your relationship is very damaging. You stop paying your significant other your full attention playing rather on the computer, ipad, or xbox 360, you stop caring how you speak to them rather saying degrading and hurtful things, you don’t value their opinions. All those things have been at the forefront of Chris and I’s relationship for months now. Where love used to set the bar for how things should be we have let anger and hurt control our hearts and thereby controlling our mouths and actions. Since starting this challenge 15 days ago I have become increasingly aware of this. I notice not only the things I say but also what he says, which leads me into the line of thinking…
Why aren’t I worth the extra effort? If he loved me so much why does he talk to me like that?
It makes me want to be better so that it can no longer be said that it is my fault. Because the Love Dare tells us “when your attempts at honor go unreciprocated, you are to give honor just the same.” It’s conscious saying “with all your failures, sins, mistakes, and faults – past and present – I will choose to love and honor you.” That’s what loving someone is really about. Jeremiah 30:19 says “I will also honor them and they will not be insignificant.”
Choose a way to show honor and respect to
your spouse that is above your normal routine.
It may be holding the door for her.
It might be putting his clothes away for him.
It may be the way you listen and speak in your communication.
Show your mate that he or she is highly esteemed in your eyes.