Saturday, July 7, 2012

Day 15: Love is Honorable

Honor is something that has been timeless in meaning. I say this because honor is something that can date back to the Bible and maybe further. When you have your honor people respect you and treat you like you matter and are worth something. Giving someone honor as described by the pages is when “you speak to them, you keep your language clean and understandable. You are courteous and polite. When they speak to you, you take them seriously, giving their words weight and significance. When they ask you to do something, you accommodate them if at all possible, simply out of respect for who they are.” From the Bible we know that honor is important. As children we are taught to honor our father and mother, as adults men are told to honor their wives and I reckon the same holds true for women and their husbands.

Taking honor away from your relationship is very damaging. You stop paying your significant other your full attention playing rather on the computer, ipad, or xbox 360, you stop caring how you speak to them rather saying degrading and hurtful things, you don’t value their opinions. All those things have been at the forefront of Chris and I’s relationship for months now. Where love used to set the bar for how things should be we have let anger and hurt control our hearts and thereby controlling our mouths and actions. Since starting this challenge 15 days ago I have become increasingly aware of this. I notice not only the things I say but also what he says, which leads me into the line of thinking…

Why aren’t I worth the extra effort? If he loved me so much why does he talk to me like that?

It makes me want to be better so that it can no longer be said that it is my fault. Because the Love Dare tells us “when your attempts at honor go unreciprocated, you are to give honor just the same.” It’s conscious saying “with all your failures, sins, mistakes, and faults – past and present – I will choose to love and honor you.” That’s what loving someone is really about. Jeremiah 30:19 says “I will also honor them and they will not be insignificant.”

   Today’s Dare
Choose a way to show honor and respect to
 your spouse that is above your normal routine.
It may be holding the door for her.
It might be putting his clothes away for him.
It may be the way you listen and speak in your communication.
Show your mate that he or she is highly esteemed in your eyes.