Monday, July 2, 2012

Day 10: Love is Unconditional

When people think about love they think about falling in love with someone. Normally that someone shares common interests or something that has brought them together. Today's pages though ask what would happen if all of that stuff over the course of years changed? Would still love them after the basis of what formed the love you two share were no longer there? Most people say no.

Whenever Chris and I got together for the first time back in 2004 I was 15 years old. He was still moody but his eyes were still sparkling with that fire that years take from you. When you talked about him or when he was around I would light up like the fireworks that will be shot off on the 4th. I was captivated and I guess you could say he was my first and only real love. Is that possible at that age? Yeah I reckon so because even though that round lasted for 3 weeks it the love stayed over the years. We dated on and off over the span of 7 1/2 years.

When I look at the way he is now and the way he was back then the change is dramatic. The things that captivated me in beginning are long since gone being replaced with someone that I don't completely know. Does that mean I love him less? Nah. You see the thing is even though he and I have spotty times in our relationship we weather through sometimes barely but that does not change the fact that I love him. Does that make since? You see the pages talk about agape which (applying school knowledge here) is considered "Christian love" it's the kind of love that 1 Corinthians 13:7 says "bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."

For awhile now people ask me why I stay or why he stays. I answer something along the lines of "because love doesn't have conditions," and todays pages reinforced what I believed to begin with. Because the truth is if love had conditions we probably wouldn't be together right now. We have both done a lot of hurtful things to each other, said a lot of things that were cruel, but at the same time we stay by each others side striving to have something.

Todays Dare:
Do something out of the ordinary today for your spouse --
something that proves (to you and to them) that your love is
based on your choice and nothing else. Wash her car. Clean the
kitchen. Buy his favorite dessert. Fold the laundry. Demonstrate
love to them for the sheer joy of being their partner in marriage.