Saturday, June 30, 2012

Day 8: Love Is Not Jealous

Twinkle In Time

I could have posted earlier but I didn't. Really I wanted to just let the day pan out as it was going to and just apply what I had learned so far to the way I acted. I don't think Chris knows really what my dares are at the moment or maybe he does. I choose not to be as pushy I was at the start and just work behind the scenes oh and not let my mouth get the better of me as it tends to do.

Like right now. I choose to blog rather then actively participate in the one-sided conversation he is having with himself. Because I would be consider "smart-assed" if I were to say what I was thinking.

Anyways today's pages were about jealousy about how it can be legitimate (love-based) or illegitimate (envy based). I am not a the type to be off the wall jealous over much. I do sometimes get a little green with envy I will admit. But love wise...I have to see cold hard proof before I go all psycho crazy on a guy and that is girl wise. I do have jealous tendencies when things take up more of their life then the importance of our life as a family. Because truthfully I do not want some wishy washy affair deal. I want the real deal.

I want a family and a life that is based on love. Is that so much to ask for in today's society? I don't think so I mean no one can expect anyones relationship to be perfect. But it can be without so many ruffles when communication is used properly.

Even still the pages point to numerous mentions of jealousy in the Bible and one must assume that it was ingrained into our being and came into effect after the whole Garden of Eden deal? Right? Unless you believe in another religion or evolution. To each their own...I am not overly preachy and not a weekly church goer but that doesn't mean I have not been saved (I have been) that also does not mean that I am your model Christian either because I am far from.

Whatever have you though no matter what race or religion you are jealousy is still a part of you. Heck you even see it in dogs (Like our dog Gotti he does not tolerate puppy behavior or rude behavior from adult dogs. Especially is said dog is male) and in a lot of other species of animals too.

My way of dealing with it is recognizing what that emotion is and dealing with the situation instead of letting that emotion control me. The pages says that "Because love is not selfish and puts others first, it refuses to let jealousy in." What I took this to mean is that you aren't in a competition with your mate...you are supposed to be on the same team. It means that you don't assume stuff or let people filter lies into your relationship without seeing the proof first. Maybe I am right or maybe I am wrong. I always tell people I am super liberal in the way I think.

As for what the dare was for today, I still haven't completed it mainly because I can't think of a situation to apply it too. Go figure hopefully I will have a lightbulb before the day is out.

Day 8s Dare:
Determine to become your spouse’s biggest fan and to reject any thoughts of jealousy.
To help set your heart on your spouse and focus on their achievements,
 take yesterday’s list of negative attributes and discreetly burn it.
Then share with your spouse how glad you are about a success
he or she recently enjoyed.